Nearly two years ago, I took notice of a politically-savvy, ridiculously amusing new commenter on my favorite blog. Being a website with mainly black American commenters, suddenly seeing posts from a white British guy was a surprise to the blog's core group. But after a month or two, he fit right into the insanity, and I found myself more and more drawn to him: his intelligence, the clever snark, his wit and charm....and he didn't even have a personal avatar yet!
"Mmm, I'm kinda liking this guy," I thought. Then, of course, he decides to put up that avatar. That bore a resemblance to a young Rutger Hauer. Lawdy. *fans self* He and I clicked in so many ways that I found myself wondering more and more often about how this man was like offline. Was he exactly the same? Shyer? Bolder? A serial killer that dressed in ruffled manties?
"But he's in England! He's 3,000+ miles away!" - Logical Me
"So the eff what? Take a chance, heffa!" - Really Interested Me
So I kind of umm....."spoke" with one of the admins-most of who had become friends by then-and wheedled his personal email out of them. But then Moral Me popped Really Interested Me in the back of the head with a side of Guilt; and I realized that I couldn't in good conscience approach him that way. Damn it. So I waited for the right moment and got it from him on the sort-of pretense of an interest in old British films.
And since I really do love old British films, it was half-true, right?
So we started communicating off of the blog, where I admitted to him that I was interested in getting to know him better. Luckily-oh, so luckily-so was he. Though he did need a bit more convincing to take a chance on a relationship that was so long distance as to be nearly ridiculous(okay, not nearly....). Fast forward those nineteen months....The Englishman and I now married, and I am currently applying for a UK Settlement Visa so I can move to England. I can't even tell you how crazy these last nineteen months have been; the highs and lows, the visits and departures and the frustrations, oh my....but not for any amount of money on this planet would I forego this experience. Because as I told my mother, who is rightfully concerned about her daughter marrying and moving so far away, he is exactly what I never thought I would find.
This blessing of a man.
